in a perfect world...

it wouldn't be a problem...

everyone has a closet, has things they keep to themselves. we all swear that the world is not ready for our thoughts... yet we all long for someone, more than anything, to connect with. which i find ironic because we can all make out who you are as an individual. our own preconceived notion of your specific situation in our intertwining lives. although not entirely on-point, as good friends, we can usually label one's problems. why is it that we can't confide in eachother? why is it that we have to hide our true nature, our true emotions when we need help the most? you're not special, don't be selfish. everyone has a struggle. some not as big as others.... sure, but we're all human. and being human, we can all see what the world does to people, for better or worse. we've heard all the stories before, so what makes you think yours would surprise us(in a good way)? we can take anything you wanna give us.

there are many variables of course, so maybe i'm only speaking for myself. I say this because we all know some people will just not understand. never will, but i feel it's quite easy to pinpoint the friends who can help you. someone who exercises an open-mind and has insight may be most appropriate unless you're just looking for an ear. but the only thing holding you back from entrusting another is the fear of being judged and failure to connect. which is miniscule compared to how much it'll help. just being able to get something of that nature out of yourself physically, to be able to share such a tribulation, is a load off the chest. not to mention, the bond you're building with another and how humbling it is to that person. for them to know that you would choose them to QQ.

Another reason i say i'm speaking for myself is because i know some people don't want to hear your shit or w.e. but in any case, imo, if i saw a friend in need i would want to reach out no matter the problem. but then again, they aren't always up to sharing...
there is no space to judge if you choose someone open-minded to speak with. and even-so, if this person does judge you, how is that any different from their preconceived thought of you? if anything, you're setting the record straight.

there's more i wanted to get into, but i'll save it for my next post.
and forgive me for my shit vocabulary )))))):